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When is Enough is Enough?

How many more have to die?
How many more have to go to jail before we change how we think?
How many still live all alone in the darkness waiting to make the news?
AngelEyes Foundation has a solution, AngelEyes Foundation wants to help more before its too late.
How can we sit and watch our precious treasures be mistreated and abused?
Please read and think about the numbers from 2014 (5) to 2018 (22) it only October.
(Domestic Violence Task Force) office has had a devastating effect on this topic. Probation with deferred adjudication without Domestic or Family Violence is a failure.
Yes, they cleared the back log of cases at what expense???
How many lives could’ve been saved??
How many of the offenders were repeat offenders?
How many were the killers?
How many will become or be the Killer?
Read the numbers below – Numbers Don’t Lie
(5) Bexar County women among 132 killed in domestic violence incidents in 2014
In Bexar County, domestic violence homicides have doubled in recent years: From (5) in 2014 to (9)in 2015
According to a new report by the Texas Council on Family Violence, (11)women died in Bexar County as a result of domestic violence in 2016
identified by SAPD, identified 2017 classified (23) homicides as related to family violence.
(22) domestic violence deaths in 2018; SA record highest in the state
2014 – (5) Deaths
2015 – (9) Deaths
2016 – (11) Deaths
2017 – (23) Deaths
2018 – Current this year (22 or more) Deaths
Keep in mind this may not count intimate partner deaths.- unable to get definite and answers Most importantly what about the numbers of those who reported that didn’t die yet???????
We still have an opportunity to save 1 or more of them.
WHAT WILL NEXT YEARS NUMBERS LOOK LIKE????
WILL YOUR CHILD OR GRANDCHILD – DAUGHTER OR SON BE A HEADLINE OR BREAKING NEWS STORY TOMORROW? Donate – save lives
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Why did she stay?
Why didn’t she leave?
• Fear
• Fear for family
• Fear of being found
• Nowhere to run (friends and family are too afraid to let her stay)
• Little or no money for food or lodging
• Possibly no transportation to get to work etc.
Why did she stay?
Why didn’t she leave?
• Who did she tell?
• Did they believe her?
• Did they help her?
• Did they turn her away?
• Were they afraid of the abuser?
Why did she stay?
Why didn’t she leave?
• Fear
• Isolation
• Lack of Confidence
• Physiological trauma
• Emotional defeat
Why did she stay?
Why didn’t she leave?
So many reasons why she had to stay!
Still so many more reasons she couldn’t leave!
Author by: Don Foster

Sources
Research by Don Foster
https://www.ksat.com/news/domestic-violence/22-domestic-violence-deaths-in-2018-sa-record-and-highest-in-the-state?fbclid=IwAR1DYd2_gurdJehvUhCwCBDCwLwVzSYAqB42Pl9L4QeZeW-rWOBrAXsZx5k

https://news4sanantonio.com/news/local/domestic-violence-task-force-tackles-backlog-of-cases-08-12-2017?fbclid=IwAR3r8mjal8YM1hiSLQWw9Rvge0zHZkOeno834ML_cC571ht_d2RmREO5G8o

Domestic Violence Fatalities Draw Attention of City Officials

Inspiring Needed Cultural Change

“Justice cannot be for one side alone, but must be for both” Eleanor Roosevelt, 1933

I understand everyone’s concern about current events and reporting.
AngelEyes Foundation wants to inspire cultural change for the actions of victims and abusers, take ownership and responsibility for lives that have been forever and permanently altered.
The hardest thing to do is to remain unbiased and transparent in our quest for the truth, providing a safe haven to share and document a living testimony of event or events.
One of the problems with these old cases was that they were never reported in a timely manner nor was evidence properly collected, along with the fact that it was a time we didn’t talk about such secrets in tragedies. We and they were supposed to keep such things to themselves so not to shame or embarrass themselves or the family, because most of the offenders are or were friends or family or someone close to the family or victims.
We need to also consider life from the perpetrator or abusers’ point of view. If they were raised by an offender or a generational line of offenders, you and we must consider the possibility that they may not understand the severity of the crime they committed. If you grow up being taught that it’s ok to beat up anyone who offends you, how can you know it’s wrong? The lack of proper education and bad role models in the past shouldn’t be overlooked, new education for both offenders and potential victims will have a positive impact on the future numbers and statistics.
We need to open the door and clean out the closet and quit hiding those skeletons, offenders and perpetrators need to be held accountable for what they have done.
With that being said we still have a moral and ethical responsibility to avoid taking down an innocent person with a vengeful or false accusation. In today’s culture we are hypersensitive to many things, this is a powerful tool that is being used to manipulate our country, government, communities and most of all our judicial system.
This can no longer be viewed as a political issue but as a cultural issue that affects our society as a whole.
I am asking each and every one of you to support our new educational miniseries that not only shows the long-term effects of Domestic/Sexual Violence but also helps educate all current/potential offenders & current/potential victims. If you think you’re in an abusive relationship you probably are, you need to break the silence reach out and let someone help you.
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Author: Don Foster October 2018

Behaviors that may indicate a Potential Abuser

The following is a list of behaviors or early warning signs that may indicate a potential Abuser. It is not the purpose of the listing to imply that every person with some of these attributes is a potential Abuser. This list is to spread awareness in hopes of preventing others from becoming victims.

Jealousy

At the start of the relationship, an abuser will equate jealously with love. The abuser will question the victim about who the victim talks to, accuse the victim of flirting, or become jealous of time spent with others. The abuser may call the victim frequently during the day, drop by unexpectedly, refuse to let the victim work, check the car mileage, or ask friends to watch the victim.

Controlling behavior

In the beginning an abuser will attribute controlling behavior to concern for the victim (for example, the victim’s safety or decision-making skills). As this behavior progresses the situation will worsen, and the abuser may assume all control of finances or prevent the victim from coming and going freely.

Quick involvement

A victim often has known or dated the abuser for a brief period of time before getting engaged or living together. The abuser will pressure the victim to commit to the relationship. A victim may be made to feel guilty for wanting to slow the pace or end the relationship.

Unrealistic expectations

An abuser expects the victim to meet all the abuser’s needs, to take care of everything emotionally and domestically.

Isolation

An abuser will attempt to isolate the victim by severing the victim’s ties to outside support and resources. The batterer will accuse the victim’s friends and family of being “trouble makers.” The abuser may block the victim’s access to use of a vehicle, work, or telephone service in the home.

Blames others for problems

An abuser will blame others for all problems or for the abuser’s own shortcomings. Someone is always out to get the abuser or is an obstacle to the abuser’s achievements. The victim or potential victim will be blamed for almost anything.

Blames others for feelings

An abuser will use feelings to manipulate the victim. Common phrases to look for: “You’re hurting me by not doing what I want.” “You control how I feel.”

Hypersensitivity

An abusive person is easily insulted, perceiving the slightest setbacks as personal attacks.

Cruelty to animals or children

This is a person who punishes animals brutally or is insensitive to their pain. The abuser may expect children to perform beyond their capability (for example whipping a two-year-old for wetting a diaper or teasing children or siblings until they cry).

“Playful” use of force in sex

This behavior includes restraining partners against their will during sex, acting out fantasies in which the partner is helpless, initiating sex when the partner is asleep, or demanding sex when the partner is ill or tired. The abuser may show little concern for his partner’s wishes and will use sulking and anger to manipulate compliance.

Verbal abuse

This behavior involves saying things that are intended to be cruel and hurtful, cursing or degrading the victim, or putting down the victim’s accomplishments.

Rigid sex roles

The victim, almost always a woman, will be expected to serve. For instance, a male abuser will see women as inferior to men, responsible for menial tasks, stupid, and unable to be a whole person without a relationship.

Dual personality “Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde”

Explosive behavior and moodiness, which can shift quickly to congeniality, are typical of people who beat their partners.

Past battering

An abuser will beat any partner if the individual is involved with the abuser long enough for the cycle of abuse to begin. Circumstances do not make a person an abusive personality.

Threats of violence

This consists of any threat of physical force meant to control the partner. Most people do not threaten their mates, but an abuser will excuse this behavior by claiming “everyone talks like that.”

Breaking or striking objects

This behavior is used as punishment (breaking sentimental possessions) or to terrorize the victim into submission.

Any force during an argument

This may involve an abuser holding down the victim, physically restraining the victim from leaving, or pushing or shoving. Holding someone back to make demands, such as “You will listen to me!” is also a show of force.

 

 

Unjustice for Victims

The sad truth is Victims are often victimized by one or more cogs system.

This isn’t meant to bash (LEO) Law Enforcement Officers or The Judicial System – we are simply exposing the flaws and the advantages leveled towards the offender or perpetrator. Everyone has a story and Angeleyes Foundation wants to hear it – until we stand together and collaborate together – the Scales of Justice and burden of proof will always weigh in favor of the Offender or Perpetrator.

By cogs I mean Police officer, Police detective, Police sergeant, Police lieutenant, Police captain, Deputy chief, Assistant chief, Chief, ADA’s, DA’s, Grand Jury, Prosecutor not to mention Eyewitnesses etc. Do they or they intend on making a mistake? I don’t believe they would do it on purpose, to error is human – but the effects are catastrophic to a victim to say the least. Their life will never be the same again, their innocents, belief and self-respect can be wiped out for ever. Never again will they feel safe, worthy or special again, what remains is a broken shell.

Who is held accountable for for mistakes? Why must the Victim and family pay the price for a failed day in Judical System.

So, imagine you home gets broke into and your depending on all these cogs to do their jobs without making any mistakes. Because if one of them make a mistake the criminal can go free.

If the offender or perpetrators defense attorney makes a mistake and the criminal feels he wasn’t properly represented. The offenders or perpetrators has a litany of options for retrial based on the current Judicial System.

Your daughter or your wife gets raped and the rapist gets away – national stats show less than 2% of perpetrators ever serve time in jail, for a few of the following reasons lack of evidence, lost evidence, no eyes witness statements, poor or no video evidence, poor or no audio evidence, substandard reports, incomplete investigation, lack of follow up with witnesses or victims, etc. these are only some of the reason and variables that allow offenders or perpetrators to go free.

How would you feel after such a horrific atrocity has taken place against your family? Place yourself in that room with your wife or daughter, when the ADA walks into the waiting room an tells you in front of everyone else that the offender taken responsibility for their actions! Things you learn later they accepted deferred adjudication – meaning they will serve term of probation (once they have completed all requirements it is possible it will no longer appear on their record) thus allowing them to possibly do it again.

We need everyone to join the fight and stand with us to educate and eradicate (Human Trafficking/Domestic & Sexual Abuse).

Think about your daughters and granddaughters if 1 out 4 are estimated to be victims in today’s world? How many will become victims in the next decade (not taking into consideration it is estimated that less than 2% currently serve any jail time – this means as more predators are born we still set today’s predators free every day in court or from jail due to botched case investigations and more).

Will your family be the next target?

Will your family be the next on TV asking for help?

Will your family be the next family in the emergency room praying for help?

I am asking and praying today it never happens to your family – But it happens every day so please help us before it gets to your family.

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San Antonio has an Epidemic

San Antonio has an Epidemic
Alone I can do so little compared to what we could do together as a community and the city.
San Antonio has an epidemic called human trafficking/domestic and sexual abuse. Every day I wake up and every day I try to do what I can with a limited budget and limited resources.
I am asking our community and our community leaders to support us in our feet on the streets project.
To help victims as well as abusers find the resources they need.
Together as a community we could start #ChangingTomorrows for both victims and abusers. Creating catastrophic changes for our future generations.
We cannot and should not keep closing our eyes and pretending it doesn’t happen. It’s real and its affecting our children, family, neighbors and our community.
The first step is to come together as a community and change our viewpoint and our outlook on victims, I do not in my heart of hearts believe they woke up one morning asking for all the terrible things that of happened to them.
I do believe that we should hold abusers accountable when they refuse to get help or except help that is offered to them!

Compliant or revictimization

These two phrases mean a lot of things to a lot of different people.
In my daily work with victims and survivors and abusers and the families of each, I’ve come to form a new understanding to these two words. (victim & re victimization)
I have never quite fully understood why I have done some of the things I have done or seen others do. If you have never been a victim or an abuser, you may never fully understand the impact this has. Impact can be short term or long term and can cause your ability to judge or to rationalize right from wrong to be misconstrued. For abusers and or victims it’s sometimes harder to decipher between right and wrong or normal and abnormal behavior, then it is for someone who’s never been exposed to such treatment.
With this being said, it is easy for predators to often re-victimize victims by getting them to do things they normally wouldn’t do if they had not been exposed to such treatment.
I am not a doctor nor am I a licensed counselor, I do believe this allows me to look at things with an open mind and see some of the shortfalls in our clinical psychology programs. Let me give you a few examples. If a man never had electricity would he miss electricity? If a child never learned to drive a car would they hate riding a bicycle? A mother who grows up in an ideal situation would hate it if someone had her kids and was using them as pawns to hurt her by hiding them or keeping them past the atime they were supposed to be back.
However, someone who has been a victim of abuse domestically, sexually, whatever the case may be, is less apt to find this unacceptable. So, the point I’m making is, when you are exposed to immortality, cruel, and unusual treatment, it has long-term effects on your ability to judge and distinguish between right and wrong as well as unacceptable behavior.
Most counselors, psychologist, doctors and other professionals would probably argue this with me on many different levels. But as a survivor of child abuse and being bullied at home, I became a bully and then escalated to emotional, verbal and sometimes physical abuse. All of these were learned traits. I was extremely vulnerable, because I was exposed to them in various occasions growing up and in relationships. This has had a devastating impact on my ability to distinguish between right and wrong and acceptable and unacceptable behavior.
The cause and effect of such treatment is allowing victims to become abusers, without ever fully comprehending what they’re doing. Exposure to such treatment oftentimes blurs our perception and reality.

Early Warning Signs of Teen Dating Violence?

What Are the Early Warning Signs of Teen Dating
Violence?
Researchers who study teen dating violence have identified several early
warnings signs that a dating relationship might be likely to turn violent.
These warning signs do not mean a relationship will definitely turn violent.
However, if you notice several of them in your relationship or partner, you
may need to re-evaluate your dating relationship. These warning signs
include:
• Excessive jealousy
• Always comparing him or herself to others looking for validation of
your love for him or her.
• Constant checking in with you or making you check in with him or her
• Attempts to isolate you from friends and family
• Insulting or putting down people that you care about
• Is too serious about the relationship too quickly
• Has had a lot of bad prior relationships – and blames all the problems
on the previous partners
• Is very controlling. This may include giving you orders, telling you
what to wear, and trying to make all the decisions for you
• Blames you when he or she treats you badly by telling you all the ways
you provoked him or her
• Does not take responsibility for own actions
• Has an explosive temper (“blows up” a lot)
• Pressures you into sexual activity with which you are not comfortable.
• Has a history of fighting, hurting animals, or brags about mistreating
other people?
• Believes strongly in stereotypical gender roles for males and females
• You worry about how your partner will react to the things you say, or
you are afraid of provoking your partner
• Owns or uses weapons
• Refuses to let you to end the relationship
• What can you do if you notice these signs in your relationship?
1. Trust your intuition! If you believe there may be a problem in the
relationship, you are probably right.
2. Do not ignore the warning signs. (You could be saving a life)
3. Research has found that those who have a tendency to engage in
relationship violence escalate their abuse over time. (It gets worse over
time, not better).
4. Spend time with people you care about other than your partner.
5. Stay in touch with your friends.
6. Keep up with activities that you enjoy and that make you feel good
about yourself.
7. You might consider looking into what help or resources might be
available in your school or area.
8. You might also want to consider calling a domestic violence hotline or
shelter for more information before you experience a crisis.

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I am noticing a shocking trend – I am even more surprised.
Victim to Survivor to Unknowing Perpetrator.

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Share your story

Angeleyes Foundation is looking for victims and survivors who will share their stories, to help bring awareness to Domestic & Sexual Abuse.
You can submit your stories anonymously or using your real name. Our goal is to empower other victims and survivors to speak out and break the silence.
Silence is the power abusers use to maintain control over their victims as well as their family and friends.
In years to come it will be easier to count those not effected by Domestic or Sexual Abuse, in recent research numbers are as high as three out of five females in certain groups.
Domestic Abuse occurs in higher numbers after graduating school and or becoming involved in a serious relationship.
Sexual assault or abuse takes place from middle school throughout college, date rape is rape and shouldn’t be dismissed or minimized by faculty or parents, these types of assaults have long term effects that effect every relationship in the future.
Why are you the survivors and victims’ allowing this to continue?
Why are you not supporting Angeleyes Foundation in our fight to expose the flawed system and bring about needed changes?
Angeleyes Foundation needs victims and survivors to unite in our movement to eradicate Domestic & Sexual Abuse.
Your donations will be used to help save lives and keep changing tomorrows.

Advocating Against

Human Trafficking/Domestic & Sexual Abuse

Working Together to Identify Issues – Collaboration (Community Leaders & Community) = Peaceful Resolution