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San Antonio has an Epidemic

San Antonio has an Epidemic
Alone I can do so little compared to what we could do together as a community and the city.
San Antonio has an epidemic called human trafficking/domestic and sexual abuse. Every day I wake up and every day I try to do what I can with a limited budget and limited resources.
I am asking our community and our community leaders to support us in our feet on the streets project.
To help victims as well as abusers find the resources they need.
Together as a community we could start #ChangingTomorrows for both victims and abusers. Creating catastrophic changes for our future generations.
We cannot and should not keep closing our eyes and pretending it doesn’t happen. It’s real and its affecting our children, family, neighbors and our community.
The first step is to come together as a community and change our viewpoint and our outlook on victims, I do not in my heart of hearts believe they woke up one morning asking for all the terrible things that of happened to them.
I do believe that we should hold abusers accountable when they refuse to get help or except help that is offered to them!

Compliant or revictimization

These two phrases mean a lot of things to a lot of different people.
In my daily work with victims and survivors and abusers and the families of each, I’ve come to form a new understanding to these two words. (victim & re victimization)
I have never quite fully understood why I have done some of the things I have done or seen others do. If you have never been a victim or an abuser, you may never fully understand the impact this has. Impact can be short term or long term and can cause your ability to judge or to rationalize right from wrong to be misconstrued. For abusers and or victims it’s sometimes harder to decipher between right and wrong or normal and abnormal behavior, then it is for someone who’s never been exposed to such treatment.
With this being said, it is easy for predators to often re-victimize victims by getting them to do things they normally wouldn’t do if they had not been exposed to such treatment.
I am not a doctor nor am I a licensed counselor, I do believe this allows me to look at things with an open mind and see some of the shortfalls in our clinical psychology programs. Let me give you a few examples. If a man never had electricity would he miss electricity? If a child never learned to drive a car would they hate riding a bicycle? A mother who grows up in an ideal situation would hate it if someone had her kids and was using them as pawns to hurt her by hiding them or keeping them past the atime they were supposed to be back.
However, someone who has been a victim of abuse domestically, sexually, whatever the case may be, is less apt to find this unacceptable. So, the point I’m making is, when you are exposed to immortality, cruel, and unusual treatment, it has long-term effects on your ability to judge and distinguish between right and wrong as well as unacceptable behavior.
Most counselors, psychologist, doctors and other professionals would probably argue this with me on many different levels. But as a survivor of child abuse and being bullied at home, I became a bully and then escalated to emotional, verbal and sometimes physical abuse. All of these were learned traits. I was extremely vulnerable, because I was exposed to them in various occasions growing up and in relationships. This has had a devastating impact on my ability to distinguish between right and wrong and acceptable and unacceptable behavior.
The cause and effect of such treatment is allowing victims to become abusers, without ever fully comprehending what they’re doing. Exposure to such treatment oftentimes blurs our perception and reality.

Early Warning Signs of Teen Dating Violence?

What Are the Early Warning Signs of Teen Dating
Violence?
Researchers who study teen dating violence have identified several early
warnings signs that a dating relationship might be likely to turn violent.
These warning signs do not mean a relationship will definitely turn violent.
However, if you notice several of them in your relationship or partner, you
may need to re-evaluate your dating relationship. These warning signs
include:
• Excessive jealousy
• Always comparing him or herself to others looking for validation of
your love for him or her.
• Constant checking in with you or making you check in with him or her
• Attempts to isolate you from friends and family
• Insulting or putting down people that you care about
• Is too serious about the relationship too quickly
• Has had a lot of bad prior relationships – and blames all the problems
on the previous partners
• Is very controlling. This may include giving you orders, telling you
what to wear, and trying to make all the decisions for you
• Blames you when he or she treats you badly by telling you all the ways
you provoked him or her
• Does not take responsibility for own actions
• Has an explosive temper (“blows up” a lot)
• Pressures you into sexual activity with which you are not comfortable.
• Has a history of fighting, hurting animals, or brags about mistreating
other people?
• Believes strongly in stereotypical gender roles for males and females
• You worry about how your partner will react to the things you say, or
you are afraid of provoking your partner
• Owns or uses weapons
• Refuses to let you to end the relationship
• What can you do if you notice these signs in your relationship?
1. Trust your intuition! If you believe there may be a problem in the
relationship, you are probably right.
2. Do not ignore the warning signs. (You could be saving a life)
3. Research has found that those who have a tendency to engage in
relationship violence escalate their abuse over time. (It gets worse over
time, not better).
4. Spend time with people you care about other than your partner.
5. Stay in touch with your friends.
6. Keep up with activities that you enjoy and that make you feel good
about yourself.
7. You might consider looking into what help or resources might be
available in your school or area.
8. You might also want to consider calling a domestic violence hotline or
shelter for more information before you experience a crisis.

Advocating against human trafficking/domestic and sexual abuse
Working together to identify issues-collaboration (community leaders and community)= peaceful resolution

#ChangingTomorrows

Trending

I am noticing a shocking trend – I am even more surprised.
Victim to Survivor to Unknowing Perpetrator.

Advocating Against

Human Trafficking/Domestic & Sexual Abuse

Working Together to Identify Issues – Collaboration (Community Leaders & Community) = Peaceful Resolution

Share your story

Angeleyes Foundation is looking for victims and survivors who will share their stories, to help bring awareness to Domestic & Sexual Abuse.
You can submit your stories anonymously or using your real name. Our goal is to empower other victims and survivors to speak out and break the silence.
Silence is the power abusers use to maintain control over their victims as well as their family and friends.
In years to come it will be easier to count those not effected by Domestic or Sexual Abuse, in recent research numbers are as high as three out of five females in certain groups.
Domestic Abuse occurs in higher numbers after graduating school and or becoming involved in a serious relationship.
Sexual assault or abuse takes place from middle school throughout college, date rape is rape and shouldn’t be dismissed or minimized by faculty or parents, these types of assaults have long term effects that effect every relationship in the future.
Why are you the survivors and victims’ allowing this to continue?
Why are you not supporting Angeleyes Foundation in our fight to expose the flawed system and bring about needed changes?
Angeleyes Foundation needs victims and survivors to unite in our movement to eradicate Domestic & Sexual Abuse.
Your donations will be used to help save lives and keep changing tomorrows.

Advocating Against

Human Trafficking/Domestic & Sexual Abuse

Working Together to Identify Issues – Collaboration (Community Leaders & Community) = Peaceful Resolution

Marketing Partner Needed

Angel eyes foundation is looking for a marketing partner to help brand our organization and keep us moving in a positive direction.
This partnership would be long-term and beneficial for both but most of all it will continue to save lives and keep changing tomorrows for victims and transforming them into survivors.
We are looking for a partner who would be willing to donate some services to get us launched and headed in the right direction, then consider staying on as our marketing and promotions coordinator for all of our events and promotions.

Advocating Against

Human Trafficking/Domestic & Sexual Abuse

Working Together to Identify Issues – Collaboration (Community Leaders & Community) = Peaceful Resolution

A Sad Night

Our angel we helped escape last week, is now in her 3rd state trying to stay ahead of her abuser/ husband.
How sad it is she is on the run and hiding from him by leaving her home and friends behind.
Doesn’t seen fair in order to find safety and peace of mind – one should loose everything and have minimal pleasures left.
Sad but true he has filed for divorce already trying to strip her of any means to live independently. Abusers often take everything away in the attempt to force their victims back into submission.

Advocating Against

Human Trafficking/Domestic & Sexual Abuse

Working Together to Identify Issues – Collaboration (Community Leaders & Community) = Peaceful Resolution

Early warning signs of dating violence

What Are the Early Warning Signs of Teen Dating
Violence?
Researchers who study teen dating violence have identified several early
warnings signs that a dating relationship might be likely to turn violent.
These warning signs do not mean a relationship will definitely turn violent.
However, if you notice several of them in your relationship or partner, you
may need to re-evaluate your dating relationship. These warning signs
include:
• Excessive jealousy
• Always comparing him or herself to others looking for validation of
your love for him or her.
• Constant checking in with you or making you check in with him or her
• Attempts to isolate you from friends and family
• Insulting or putting down people that you care about
• Is too serious about the relationship too quickly
• Has had a lot of bad prior relationships – and blames all the problems
on the previous partners
• Is very controlling. This may include giving you orders, telling you
what to wear, and trying to make all the decisions for you
• Blames you when he or she treats you badly by telling you all the ways
you provoked him or her
• Does not take responsibility for own actions
• Has an explosive temper (“blows up” a lot)
• Pressures you into sexual activity with which you are not comfortable.
• Has a history of fighting, hurting animals, or brags about mistreating
other people?
• Believes strongly in stereotypical gender roles for males and females
• You worry about how your partner will react to the things you say, or
you are afraid of provoking your partner
• Owns or uses weapons
• Refuses to let you to end the relationship
• What can you do if you notice these signs in your relationship?
1. Trust your intuition! If you believe there may be a problem in the
relationship, you are probably right
2. Do not ignore the warning signs. (You could be saving a life)
3. Research has found that those who have a tendency to engage in
relationship violence escalate their abuse over time. (It gets worse over
time, not better).
4. Spend time with people you care about other than your partner.
5. Stay in touch with your friends.
6. Keep up with activities that you enjoy and that make you feel good
about yourself.
7. You might consider looking into what help or resources might be
available in your school or area.
8. You might also want to consider calling a domestic violence hotline or
shelter for more information before you experience a crisis

Advocating Against

Human Trafficking/Domestic & Sexual Abuse

Working Together to Identify Issues – Collaboration (Community Leaders & Community) = Peaceful Resolution

Leave your home and your city

Ladies is it fair that you have to leave your home and your city to escape your abuser or stocker?
Why should you not only have to leave your home and possibly your children and everything you’ve worked so hard for just to escape the domestic or sexual abuse and the perpetrator?
TEXAS wants stood for real man and cowboys who protected their families and protected women and children . I am sorry but I guess TEXAS has fallen because here in San Antonio Texas domestic and sexual abuse along with human trafficking is the highest it’s ever been and one of the highest in the country.
I am not sure of the exact failure in our system but I’m pretty sure it has a lot to do with the catch and release policy.
Our district attorneys office has a task force headed up by and ADA, I was under the impression that position was to help protect victims. We have failed to obtain multiple protection orders or restraining orders due to lack of evidence,I am not sure what kind of evidence she needs to elpimplement a protective order or restraining order. As we have showin in the past multiple calls to the police department for the same thing Domestic Abuse, I ask myself self what kind of evidence are they looking for??? As some or most of our victims that have requested these protective items have had scars on their faces black eyes busted lips shaking like a leaf in the wind living in fear every day refusing to leave their own homes or their temporary hiding spot.
I am asking every victim and survivor to stand with me and fight for change!
#EnoughIsEnough #ChangingTomorrows #AngelEyesFoundation #DomesticAbuse #DomesticViolence #SexualAbuse #SexualViolence #HumanTrafficking #BreakTheSilence #BreakTheCycle #DateRape #Great #MaritalRape #SpousalRape #SanAntonioTexas #Texas
Advocating Against

Human Trafficking/Domestic & Sexual Abuse

Working Together to Identify Issues – Collaboration (Community Leaders & Community) = Peaceful Resolution