What Are the Early Warning Signs of Teen Dating
Researchers who study teen dating violence have identified several early
warnings signs that a dating relationship might be likely to turn violent.
These warning signs do not mean a relationship will definitely turn violent.
However, if you notice several of them in your relationship or partner, you
may need to re-evaluate your dating relationship. These warning signs
• Excessive jealousy
• Always comparing him or herself to others looking for validation of
your love for him or her.
• Constant checking in with you or making you check in with him or her
• Attempts to isolate you from friends and family
• Insulting or putting down people that you care about
• Is too serious about the relationship too quickly
• Has had a lot of bad prior relationships – and blames all the problems
on the previous partners
• Is very controlling. This may include giving you orders, telling you
what to wear, and trying to make all the decisions for you
• Blames you when he or she treats you badly by telling you all the ways
you provoked him or her
• Does not take responsibility for own actions
• Has an explosive temper (“blows up” a lot)
• Pressures you into sexual activity with which you are not comfortable.
• Has a history of fighting, hurting animals, or brags about mistreating
• Believes strongly in stereotypical gender roles for males and females
• You worry about how your partner will react to the things you say, or
you are afraid of provoking your partner
• Owns or uses weapons
• Refuses to let you to end the relationship
• What can you do if you notice these signs in your relationship?
1. Trust your intuition! If you believe there may be a problem in the
relationship, you are probably right.
2. Do not ignore the warning signs. (You could be saving a life)
3. Research has found that those who have a tendency to engage in
relationship violence escalate their abuse over time. (It gets worse over
time, not better).
4. Spend time with people you care about other than your partner.
5. Stay in touch with your friends.
6. Keep up with activities that you enjoy and that make you feel good
7. You might consider looking into what help or resources might be
available in your school or area.
8. You might also want to consider calling a domestic violence hotline or
shelter for more information before you experience a crisis.
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